A New Perspective

I lived so many years of my life feeling like a victim. I’ve had a hard life, and have been through lots of difficult things, including being infected with HIV more than 30 years ago. I hated the world. I was scared of it and I didn’t trust many people.

However, about 12-13 years ago, my life started to change.  I realized I didn’t have to be a victim. I started seeing a therapist. My friends began challenging me more and more. It helped hearing things that were told to me “straight up.” I remember one of my friends telling me, “I don’t mind hearing you talk about stuff, but why don’t you do something about it? You don’t have to be a victim.” Those words hit me hard, and it took me a few years to finally start opening up to what my friends and therapist were telling me.

I learned that when you change the way you look at things in life, the things you look at in life change. It’s all about how we perceive things. Yes, I have HIV, but instead of saying, “woe is me,” I am working to do something positive about it. I’ve learned that in order to grow and move forward, we have to break the patterns we have been living. I know that for most of us, we are doing the best with what we’ve got, but sometimes we get stuck! I know you’re thinking, “Oh, you just don’t understand.” But, I say to that, “No, YOU don’t understand!” Unless we change something, the world will keep coming around and smacking us in the face.  Changing my perspective about living with HIV and to stop thinking about myself as a victim has helped me to open new doors and take advantage of new opportunities I never would have seen before.

Today, I leave you with a challenge: Take a look at the way you perceive issues or problems — can you look at them from a different perspective?

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below!


3 thoughts on “A New Perspective

  1. What a great statement “I learned that when you change the way you look at things in life, the things you look at in life change. It’s all about how we perceive things.” It might not always be easy, but just keeping that comment in the back of my mind will help me to stop and think if there are other choices that I can make.

  2. you know life is not easy. So We have to take one day at a time I have been with this illness for 14 years! and it has not been easy. But it really Help if you Have Family Support. Don’t Have a pity party on your self! Are even Blame God. It Is What It IS, Just Deal with It LIFE DO GO ON AND I’am A WITNESS. I Have a Grandson and a Daughter Who I Thank God For, If it want the Grace Of God I Would Not Be Here. Like I said Good Support Really Help.I Have my Moments Now and then. But Never Give up on your self.We can Help Other Ladies. How to Live with it Life Has it ups and downs even if you don t have this illness. With this! you Really See Who will Stand By You, Will They Judge you,Look Down on you.Just Pray and Never Never Give up

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