Category Archives: Support

The Secret of HIV

 I was watching The View when I heard Cookie Johnson say when her husband ”Magic Johnson” confessed that he was HIV she had to make a choice. Her choice was to leave and let him die or stay and help him live!

why-love-is-a-good-drug-for-mind-and-body-ftrShe said how hard it was for her when he had to close himself in a room and call all the women he had, had sex with over the past 10 years. I heard her say this and I thought “This is my story in reverse.”

I’m the infected spouse and my husband decided to stay and help me live. He stood by while I had to talk to the health department and disclose my sexual contacts. He wasn’t literally in the room but he knew I was online and on the phone giving names and contacting those I may have exposed or who may have exposed me to HIV. He chose to stay and in the early days or months he probably thought I wasn’t going to be in his life and our children for much longer. He chose to stay and help me fight this disease. He was tested within hours of my diagnosis and tested negative. I thank God for that. He chose to care for me when I couldn’t get out of bed. He drove me to every appointment to sign up for care, for medicines, and everything connected to infectious disease. He keeps me on schedule and checks for any new side effects or symptoms. He drives me to the hospital when I have to go and stays until I force him to go home and rest. I wouldn’t say he’s a Saint but he’s pretty darn close to it.

We still argue as many couples do that have spent so many years together. They are not big fights more of disagreements because we don’t agree on a lot some days. One thing I guess we do agree on and that is that it’s better staying together than being apart. And alone.

I love this man whom I decided to marry so many years ago and will try to make up for the terrible choices I made in a bad time in my life. If he asks something of me I can not refuse and part of that request is keeping my status private from most of our life. Secrets are hard for me and lies are a close second.

Now in our later years we care for one another. I guess the part of the marriage ceremony fits here. “In sickness and in health” We are the elderly couple sitting together on the park bench or walking on the beach. We may not be always holding hands but we will be very close together.

 

 

Strengthen Your Future, Give Your Past Away

There are many things that we can do to make our future better and one of them is giving our past away.  Our past has so many bad things that weigh our lives down and it could make us sick.  So, we begin little by little, on trying to make our future stronger by giving away the past and all of the things that come with it. The things that are in our past may consist of many things, such as, work, school, sports that we may play, children, and relationships.  I know what you are saying, “Why give away all the things that make us happy?”

We don’t give away the memories, we give away the bad habits, and the bad thoughts that may have come to our mind throughout the day, not to mention that we woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Maybe, the toast is a little over cooked. These are just a few things that come to mind. This stuff needs to be let go or given away through your Power Greater than Ourselves, our journal, parents or maybe friends.

As we talk about the little things, some which are listed, these things start to leave our minds, body and our souls and makes us smile, and enjoy our days. This is a necessity because it is essential that we lighten our load by letting go of the past.

To have a strong future, I have given you a few things that will help to strengthen yourself, your future and the thoughts that may come to your mind. If we give away the dirt, we can’t help but feel cleaner.

What is keeping life so bogged down for you?

Once letting go, you must leave it there.

What is your reason?

 

 

 

 

 

The Fear of Attending a Support Group

Doorways Through IPemmy ElderSupport groups are everywhere. There are support groups for drinking, sex, gambling, health issues, etc. Having a problem that requires a support group is hard enough but then you add the fear of attending that first meeting. You don’t really know anybody, but you do know that they all have the same problem going on that you do and that’s a comfort. A million thoughts are running through your head when attending the first meeting. Will I have to speak? Am I being judged? How will this help me?

Most support groups are non­judgemental and a safe zone where you can share your thoughts and feelings with people who understand what you’re going through. Being the newest member of anything is always hard, but being part of something that is helping you better, or get through your life is the best.

I was a new member of a support group about three or four years ago and I was terrified. I didn’t know anybody and was hesitant about people finding out about my status. The ladies of that first group were wonderful, though, and made me feel very welcome. Now it’s years later and this group has become such an integral and important part of my life. I love every single person so much and I can’t imagine how I would get through life without their support.

Support groups are there to help us and most of the time they end up being our biggest supporter. I encourage everybody to try one.

The Reality & Resilience of the Woman

Book Frt CoverRealistically speaking I believe that until you see and stand up for your worth you will not fulfill the plan God has for you. Unawareness of your worth can cause you to miss out on opportunities for growth and development, even having no vision for your future and wasting your energy on the minuscule things in life can fester into bigger issues within, that too can keep you from your promise.

What is your reality? Are you honestly ready to walk away from a situation that is causing you more harm than good by having the strength to pray and gracefully excuse yourself from the foolishness? Do you feel resilient enough to fail, get back up, re-invent yourself and commit to God and yourself that you will be greater than before?

The reality and resiliency of the woman is seeking God’s freedom for her life. That means knowing who you are and whose you are. In order to seek out freedom though, you have to go through some tough times. You will conquer some trials and tribulations and if you can still walk to a mirror right now and look at yourself with the open wounds, and flaws and brokenness, I still need you to know, woman, that you are greatness.

The reality and resiliency of the woman is to look at her truth. Stop stressing yourself out and stop worrying about what folks think. Your truth may be ugly and messy and full of drama or your truth may be beautiful and full of positivity. We all have to look at our truths and evaluate where we want to be in life in order to build our resiliency as a woman. Sister, you must choose everyday to put both of your feet in front of the other and walk forward without letting your truths (good, bad, or ugly) define your future.

The reality and resiliency of the woman is speaking to her inner woman. If you have to wake up every morning and persuade yourself that you are worth more, then do it! You deserve the best in life and nothing or no one will keep you from it. Your destiny is too important for you to sleep on. Your destiny is much too powerful for you to wait on anyone or anything other but God. Your destiny is your personalized purpose from God materialized. You can live it, breath it, touch it, and feel confident in knowing that the reality and resiliency of the woman has been instilled in us by God.

Once you know who you are in Christ Jesus, get ready because everything will change for you! What used to look and act real is now showing its true face of being a distraction and your reality begins to look a lot brighter, limitless, and full of potential all because you sought and acknowledged God, trusting His will and his reality for you.

WOMAN KNOW THIS, “WE AS WOMEN CARE ABOUT EXCELLENCE! WE EXUDE SELF-LOVE AND SELF-CONFIDENCE. WE ARE STRENGTH MANIFESTED! WE ARE WOMEN OF GOD AND THROUGH OUR RESILIENCE WE WILL LIVE OUR TRUTH EVERYDAY!”

“NOW GO AND BE GREAT!”

Excerpt taken from The Greatness Devotional by Natishia Y. June

Natishia Y. June is an author, social justice advocate, and speaker; however her best title to date is that of wife and mother!

Pre-Order your copy of the Greatness Devotional at greatnessdevo.bigcartel.com, or digitally on Ibook and Nook!

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Natishia Y. June is a National speaker, rebel for Christ, advocate and published author. Natishia has written numerous articles on everything from social justice and Christian devotionals all the way down to fashion. Her true passion is instilling Greatness in people living in this world but who are followers of Jesus Christ. With her gracious yet thorough approach in speaking truth, the Greatness Devotional, her first book, offers real life motivation that applies to all women no matter where they are in their walk.

 

Stolen Innocence

Nearly 1 in 5 women in the United States will have experienced rape or attempted rape during their lifetime.

According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center (NSVRC), sexual violence is defined as any type of unwanted sexual contact. This can include words or actions of a sexual nature against a person’s will and without their consent. Consent is a mutual agreement to take part in sexual activity.

Unfortunately, survivors of sexual abuse often know the person who assaulted them. Studies also show that people who sexually abuse usually target someone they know — a friend, classmate, neighbor, coworker, or relative.

In 2005-10, about 55% of rape or sexual assault victimizations occurred at or near the victim’s home, and another 12% occurred at or near the home of a friend, relative, or acquaintance.

Together, we can change the conditions that contribute to sexual violence.

You can learn the facts about sexual violence and play an active role in changing misconceptions. Prevention starts with believing survivors when they disclose. In your personal life, you can model supportive relationships and behaviors and speak up when you hear sexist, racist, or homophobic comments.

If you are unsure of how to speak up, simply saying a statement like “I feel offended by you saying that” or simply expressing your discomfort with a matter would be a good way to start that conversation.

If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual violence, please contact the following:

Resources:
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
877-739-3895
www.nsvrc.org

Hotlines:
Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
800-656-4673
https://rainn.org/get-help                                                                     

The National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233
http://www.thehotline.org/help

 

 

National Youth HIV/ AIDS Awareness Day!

Every month 1,000 young people are infected with HIV and over 76,400 young people are currently living with HIV across the United States.

National Youth HIV & AIDS Awareness Day (NYHAAD) is a day to educate the public about the impact of HIV and AIDS on young people as well as highlight the amazing work young people are doing across the country carrying out to fight the HIV & AIDS epidemic.

In the United States, one in four new HIV infections are among youth ages 13 to 24. Young people and supporters are determined to end this epidemic and on April 10th, we hope that you will help acknowledge the great work young people are already doing in the community!

According to NYHAAD, there are 5 simple ways you can help out:
1. Get tested!
2. Tune into a live conversation on the impact of HIV on youth on April 10 at 5:30 PM EST on HUFFINGTON POST LIVE
3. Follow NYHAAD on Facebook and Twitter using @YouthAIDSDay and #NYHAAD
4. Go to the Center for Disease Control website
5. Share NYHAAD’s new infographics on what young people need to get for an “AIDS-free generation”
If we’re not reaching out to these young people, an AIDS-Free Generation will be almost impossible to achieve. If you are interested in doing more to help helping out, commemorating, and/ or learning more about NYHAAD, please visit: amplifyyourvoice.org/nyhaad

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